A recent Cosmopolitan article suggests t

A recent�Loveawake dating site blog article�suggests the�Apple Store�as the top hot spot for single women to find a single man.�Really?�I only shop at the Apple Store once or twice a year, and when I do I�m a typical guy shopper � head into the store knowing exactly what I want, make the purchase and promptly leave. Maybe that�s why I�m still single, I�m going about things all wrong. Rather than grabbing a drink at a local restaurant bar, I should be hanging out at the Genius Bar.

Which begs the question, why don�t more women hang out in restaurant bars?�They�re a great place for educated professionals to meet. Sip a glass of wine, flirt and chat in a mature environment, minus the ass-grabbing or go-home-with-me expectations of a meat market dance club. (I enjoy an occasional night out on the prowl, but also understand it�s geared more towards taking someone home to bed, rather than home to meet the kids.)



As a suburban�single dad, I have few built-in opportunities to meet single women. �Silicon Valley, where I live, is full of families. The women I meet are soccer moms, PTA moms, neighborhood moms, almost all of them married.

Forty miles away in San Francisco there are plenty of single women, but they live there and I live here. Even if I was willing to drive the hour each way for dates, we wouldn�t be part of each others� social fabric. I�m involved in my kids� lives here, volunteering in schools, sports, and other activities. I can�t do that if I�m heading up to the City all the time. And no way would I live in San Francisco and inflict a long commute on my kids.

Cosmo got a few things right in their list,�suggesting things like joining a volleyball league, taking up indoor rock climbing, volunteering for a cause. All things where men and women can do something fun together. (Thank goodness�internet dating�wasn�t on the list. Though for�hooking up, sites like�Craigslist�are an essential resource.) But as I pointed out in my�Salsa Dancing�post, there�s way more single men than women in the Valley, and many of those women�aren�t interested in single dads.

The magazine also suggests working in a Fortune 500 company to meet other singles, especially a firm with male/female ratios in your favor. I have to admit, it was through work that I met the woman I married. But now that I�m divorced and no longer working a corporate gig, it pains me to think a Valley single would only look inside a high-tech company for a mate. I�ve�lunched at Google, and know there are beautiful, intelligent, confident women there looking specifically to date a Google engineer. Don�t they know, successful engineers work long hours? (I know, I used to be one.)

(Quick random thought:�If women are so intuitive, why do they even read Cosmo?�Couldn�t they just intuit where to meet a great guy like me? I�m right here, ladies, trying to figure out where to hunt for you.) I suppose the odds of a single woman meeting a guy at the Apple Store are high.�But will he be�the�guy?�Doesn�t seem likely. My self-serving advice to Cosmo�s female readers � move here (the weather is great!), cycle or run at lunch (like I do), shop at my local grocery and produce market, grab coffee at my local Peet�s. And be sure to enjoy an occasional glass of wine at a nearby restaurant bar.


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