A recent Cosmopolitan article suggests t
Sam Powers (jdate)
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December 3, 2020
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A recent�Loveawake dating site blog
article�suggests the�Apple Store�as the top hot spot for single women to find a
single man.�Really?�I only shop at the Apple Store once or twice a
year, and when I do I�m a typical guy shopper � head into the store knowing
exactly what I want, make the purchase and promptly leave. Maybe that�s
why I�m still single, I�m going about things all wrong. Rather than grabbing a
drink at a local restaurant bar, I should be hanging out at the Genius Bar.
Which begs the question, why don�t more women hang out in restaurant
bars?�They�re a great place for educated professionals to meet. Sip a
glass of wine, flirt and chat in a mature environment, minus the ass-grabbing
or go-home-with-me expectations of a meat market dance club. (I enjoy an
occasional night out on the prowl, but also understand it�s geared more towards
taking someone home to bed, rather than home to meet the kids.)
As a suburban�single dad, I have few built-in
opportunities to meet single women.
�Silicon Valley, where I live, is
full of families. The women I meet are
soccer moms, PTA moms, neighborhood moms,
almost all of them married.
Forty miles away in San Francisco there are
plenty of single women, but they live there
and I live here. Even if I was willing to
drive the hour each way for dates, we
wouldn�t be part of each others� social
fabric. I�m involved in my kids� lives here,
volunteering in schools, sports, and other
activities. I can�t do that if I�m heading
up to the City all the time. And no way
would I live in San Francisco and inflict a
long commute on my kids.
Cosmo got a few things right in
their list,�suggesting things like
joining a volleyball league, taking up
indoor rock climbing, volunteering for a
cause. All things where men and women can do
something fun together. (Thank
goodness�internet dating�wasn�t on the list.
Though for�hooking up, sites
like�Craigslist�are an essential resource.)
But as I pointed out in my�Salsa
Dancing�post, there�s way more single men
than women in the Valley, and many of those
women�aren�t interested in single dads.
The magazine also suggests working in a
Fortune 500 company to meet other singles,
especially a firm with male/female ratios in
your favor. I have to admit, it was through
work that I met the woman I married. But now
that I�m divorced and no longer working a
corporate gig, it pains me to think a Valley
single would only look inside a high-tech
company for a mate. I�ve�lunched at Google, and know
there are beautiful, intelligent, confident
women there looking specifically to date a
Google engineer. Don�t they know, successful
engineers work long hours? (I know, I used
to be one.)
(Quick random thought:�If women
are so intuitive, why do they even read
Cosmo?�Couldn�t they just intuit
where to meet a great guy like me? I�m right
here, ladies, trying to figure out where to
hunt for you.)
I suppose the odds of a single woman meeting
a guy at the Apple Store are
high.�But will he
be�the�guy?�Doesn�t seem
likely. My self-serving advice to Cosmo�s
female readers � move here (the weather is
great!), cycle or run at lunch (like I do),
shop at my local grocery and produce market,
grab coffee at my local Peet�s. And be sure
to enjoy an occasional glass of wine at a
nearby restaurant bar.
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